Yes: my impression is that there's lots of unnecessary competitiveness, loads of misunderstanding around trying to use similar scales for suffering (death vs. Oxford, for example)... I'm not sure about rooting this all in Ultimate Suffering as embodied by the Shoah - it seems more general and everyday, and in particular rooted in peer competition.
It seems to squick me particularly because we have no option but to trust peoples' own truth for themselves, and trust in their good faith in not exaggerating and attention-seeking unnecessarily, and there seems to be so much potential there for removing help and validation from people who really need it. I think the only way to tackle that is to emphasise the need to *not* be unnecessarily noisy about this, and that could silence those who do need help, and argh we're going in circles...
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Yes: my impression is that there's lots of unnecessary competitiveness, loads of misunderstanding around trying to use similar scales for suffering (death vs. Oxford, for example)... I'm not sure about rooting this all in Ultimate Suffering as embodied by the Shoah - it seems more general and everyday, and in particular rooted in peer competition.
It seems to squick me particularly because we have no option but to trust peoples' own truth for themselves, and trust in their good faith in not exaggerating and attention-seeking unnecessarily, and there seems to be so much potential there for removing help and validation from people who really need it. I think the only way to tackle that is to emphasise the need to *not* be unnecessarily noisy about this, and that could silence those who do need help, and argh we're going in circles...