ext_2837 ([identity profile] syllopsium.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] emanix 2011-04-26 12:54 am (UTC)

Re: Service Top

Only insofar as much as both are basically inadequately defined concepts. The world is clearly [1] not defined into 'ask' vs 'guess' - there is a distinct grey area between the two.

Likewise, whilst Maxine's post is a good one, it still only works in a narrowly defined scene.

There's nothing preventing a somewhat more organic arrangement of a scene - aside from rigid thinking from the participants, of course.

Still, it's a much better scale than reducing everything to D/s.

[1] To anyone with any experience. Even Julian Sanchez misses the point - not only are people negotiating where on the relationship gradient they lie[2], but they're also implicitly deciding how far they're willing to commit.

[2] I suppose you could also define relationships in two dimensions rather than one. Involvement vs commitment, perhaps. These things are complicated already though.

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