Key phrase: "if you love the way I do" - I cannot believe how many people do not realize just how differently love can happen. Humans are wildly variable, and we do not mesh well merely because we fall in love. Love is not enough. It can take some hard work to knit two ways of loving into one relationship that works over time.*
*Bizarrely, this is all observation. My two (very) long term relationships have been remarkably trouble-resistant. The two "um-friends" relationships, ditto. :) Not luck, either, but all me, being very attentive to what I need and what I can give. The luck is in avoiding love that would hurt me. Powerful sense of self preservation right here. ;)
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Key phrase: "if you love the way I do" - I cannot believe how many people do not realize just how differently love can happen. Humans are wildly variable, and we do not mesh well merely because we fall in love. Love is not enough. It can take some hard work to knit two ways of loving into one relationship that works over time.*
*Bizarrely, this is all observation. My two (very) long term relationships have been remarkably trouble-resistant. The two "um-friends" relationships, ditto. :) Not luck, either, but all me, being very attentive to what I need and what I can give. The luck is in avoiding love that would hurt me. Powerful sense of self preservation right here. ;)