This post resonated well with me. For me personally, gender is rather irrelevant & sexuality too. Until it comes to actual sex, but then as I have had very few sexual partners...

I liked this:
"real mental connection with another intelligent human being"
I strive for an honest intimacy in relationships.

I recall I had a female "tomboy" friend as a child. He mother would shout "act lady-like" as we tore out the door. Some hope! I just accepted her as she was and she me.