One of the things I *really love* about Frolicon is that the community is sufficiently diverse that there is very little "one true way" vibe there. Every panel I attended stressed that there is no "wrong" way unless someone is damaged (as opposed to hurt; my phrasing). Yes, I've been to panels in the past that weren't as accommodating, but that seems to improve every year. I feel very "at home" there in ways that I don't in even my chosen local community.
I identify as a dominant (with the potential to be submissive in *very* specific circumstances which I haven't really experienced, and which may not even exist.) I am an S/M switch (in that I like to both give and receive pain). I'm into giving service (giving partners what they want and ask for). I'm less comfortable receiving service, but I'm working on that, because I think I could be good at it. I'm good with both intense and light-hearted scenes. I'm not as comfortable "joking around", as I tend to interpret things literally, and so even an obvious joke that hits close to reality may throw me into a bad headspace and require a lot of defusing later.
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Date: 2011-04-25 05:25 pm (UTC)I identify as a dominant (with the potential to be submissive in *very* specific circumstances which I haven't really experienced, and which may not even exist.) I am an S/M switch (in that I like to both give and receive pain). I'm into giving service (giving partners what they want and ask for). I'm less comfortable receiving service, but I'm working on that, because I think I could be good at it. I'm good with both intense and light-hearted scenes. I'm not as comfortable "joking around", as I tend to interpret things literally, and so even an obvious joke that hits close to reality may throw me into a bad headspace and require a lot of defusing later.
Thanks for this post, it's very well put!