Ooh, that is something I left out of this, and I hadn't put my finger on the lack. The 'naughty sub' or the 'Dom is a better person whose wishes are more important' things just don't work for me either, and it seems to be the only image a lot of folks have of kink. I have had to work for years to train toppy partners out of the 'you've been a bad girl so I have to punish you' shit when it really was not appropriate to me. I *hate* bratting, and a spanking is a reward to me, not a punishment - and making something I love into a punishment feels like abuse to me. YMMV
I have no problem with the folks it works for, I just wish the image of kink included more variety.
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Date: 2011-04-30 06:18 pm (UTC)I have no problem with the folks it works for, I just wish the image of kink included more variety.