Maxine's Journal

On the whole, it's the most common thing folks new to poly go looking for (and probably the biggest part of why they don't find it). The logic seems to go 'We're new to poly, so we're going to be prone to jealousy. We will minimise jealousy by finding one partner who loves both of us in exactly the same way, and who will only date the two of us, so nobody will feel left out.' Other folks have addressed various psychological and social aspects of this, but I realised nobody had specifically addressed the numerical side, which I feel is at least relevant!