I'm 'Fred' and I've been commenting in your comic for quite a while name. (Why do I suddenly feel like I've walked into a meeting of some sort?)
I learned both the dangers and the inherent wrongness with being in the closet - whatever closet almost 20 years ago. I was in the US Air Force at the time and while I had happily come to terms with being bisexual before entering the service ... well, they're still not comfortable with that idea two decades later.
The short version is they claimed I couldn't hold a TSI clearance because someone could blackmail me for being bisexual ... never mind the fact that they were the only ones in my life who actually cared and therefore the only ones to whom I could have been blackmailed. I came away with the realization that if I hadn't have been trying to keep a secret in the first place it never would have been a problem. (Admittedly I also wouldn't have served in the USAF, but ... well, that's too long of a discussion to post in someone else's LJ.)
I don't usually go around introducing myself "Hi! I'm Fred, I'm bisexual, kinky, poly, Pagan, etc.," but at the same time I keep pictures of all of my sweeties on my desk (when I have a desk) and will happily answer questions about 'who are all these people.' I absolutely refuse to act like anything I'm doing is wrong! (Although I do know enough to tailor my details to the situation. When Mom asked me what we did over the weekend I say "We went camping" instead of "We went camping at a kink event and I had a great time in the dungeon.")
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Date: 2010-02-27 02:50 am (UTC)I'm 'Fred' and I've been commenting in your comic for quite a while name. (Why do I suddenly feel like I've walked into a meeting of some sort?)
I learned both the dangers and the inherent wrongness with being in the closet - whatever closet almost 20 years ago. I was in the US Air Force at the time and while I had happily come to terms with being bisexual before entering the service ... well, they're still not comfortable with that idea two decades later.
The short version is they claimed I couldn't hold a TSI clearance because someone could blackmail me for being bisexual ... never mind the fact that they were the only ones in my life who actually cared and therefore the only ones to whom I could have been blackmailed. I came away with the realization that if I hadn't have been trying to keep a secret in the first place it never would have been a problem. (Admittedly I also wouldn't have served in the USAF, but ... well, that's too long of a discussion to post in someone else's LJ.)
I don't usually go around introducing myself "Hi! I'm Fred, I'm bisexual, kinky, poly, Pagan, etc.," but at the same time I keep pictures of all of my sweeties on my desk (when I have a desk) and will happily answer questions about 'who are all these people.' I absolutely refuse to act like anything I'm doing is wrong! (Although I do know enough to tailor my details to the situation. When Mom asked me what we did over the weekend I say "We went camping" instead of "We went camping at a kink event and I had a great time in the dungeon.")
Anyway ... nice to see you here too.