I just find it ridiculous that the authors comments can be read as saying 'cheating and deception are okay, if you can pretend the other person really knows about it' and/or non-monogamy is okay, but you have to pretend it isn't really happening.
I get the impression he's only got comparitive experience of monogamy. His idea that you shouldn't talk about it probably comes from not expecting it to be possible.
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Date: 2009-07-23 12:51 pm (UTC)I just find it ridiculous that the authors comments can be read as saying 'cheating and deception are okay, if you can pretend the other person really knows about it' and/or non-monogamy is okay, but you have to pretend it isn't really happening.
Grr.
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Date: 2009-07-23 12:58 pm (UTC)I get the impression he's only got comparitive experience of monogamy. His idea that you shouldn't talk about it probably comes from not expecting it to be possible.
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Date: 2009-07-23 01:12 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-07-23 01:14 pm (UTC)